Im no stranger to conflict, conflict resolution, confrontation.. in fact I think over the years I've been working on becoming better with it. My recent ex-bestfriend was also pretty good when it came to confrontation, incredibly outspoken when she needed to be and that was one of the things I truly admired about her and learned to sharpen my own tongue and stand up for myself just by watching her do it on her own.
You ever confronted someone, a friend, with an issue you're having and feel a little bit tense because in your head you're thinking "gosh I hope they don't hate me for this." or "gosh I hope they don't take this the wrong way." It's exhausting because we should be able to talk about our feelings, we should be able to bring up conflict and work toward a solution.. right? Right... I try not to let those thoughts crowd my mind, id like to say I've gotten way better at that. But in the past that led me to people pleasing/shutting up.
Recently I brought up an issue I was having to a friend, a good friend. But now I can't help but to think I possibly could've offended them? I reassured them that although I have this issue I don't believe they're a bad person or did something bad to me because they didn't. They just did something that made me feel uneasy and so I brought it up so we can talk about it. We talked... but now I haven't heard from them since then. I can't help but feel like I hurt them? Should I apologize now? But wouldn't that be wrong because... what would I be apologizing for?
What if they just need space right now? I can honor that. Previous Me would overreact and invade that space asking tons of "are you mad at me?" or "why aren't you talking to me?" questions.
Idk.. I'll just give them space, usually that's what people need and I am okay with that.
ANYWAYSSS.. HAPPY FRIDAY 🐷
